Talking is half the trick — listening is the other half
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Everyone thinks "spoken language" means TALKING. It doesn't. Listening is just as important — maybe MORE important.
A great talker is also a great listener. Today we'll look at five things that make you good at both.
How to listen properly
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Good listeners do four things:
- Look at the person talking.
- Keep still — no fiddling.
- Don't interrupt — wait for the gap.
- Nod or react — show you're following.
Try this now. Find a grown-up. Ask them: "What was the best part of your day?" — and just listen. Don't talk until they've finished.
Taking turns
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In a real conversation, people take turns. One person talks, the other listens. Then they swap.
The signal it's your turn: the other person stops talking and looks at you. THAT is the gap.
If two people both talk at once, no-one can hear anything. So if you find yourself talking over someone, STOP — and let them finish.
Ask good questions
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A great question keeps a conversation going. Boring questions get one-word answers.
Boring: "Did you like your dinner?" → "Yes."
Great: "What was your favourite bit of dinner and why?" → conversation!
Good questions usually start with What, Why, How, Tell me about…
Build on what others say
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When your friend has said something, don't just change the subject. ADD to what they said.
Friend: "I went to the park and saw a squirrel."
Not great: "I had pizza for dinner."
Great: "What was the squirrel doing? Did you get close?"
That's called building on the conversation. It's a very grown-up skill.
It's OK to disagree — kindly
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People won't always agree with you. That's GOOD — it means everyone gets to think.
How to disagree without being mean:
"I see what you mean, but…"
"I think a bit differently because…"
"That's interesting. I'm not sure I agree — here's why."
You're a great listener. You take turns. You ask good questions. You build on what others say. You disagree politely. Now you're ready for ANY conversation.
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